My Husband and I are growing so much in learning from each other. We had times of ups and downs and had been trying to learn more to grow in our relationship.
As married couple, it is hard sometimes to adjust towards each others expectations. I've learned not to set any expectations at all but just to serve one another with all honesty and truthfulness. It would result disappointments if I would set my expectations which in the end couldn't be met. This contrast in marriage is such a huge obligation. It was very much filled with excitement in the beginning, with all these datings, until it went to engagements and the weddings. It was always filled with fun.
When the excitement is over, what counts then is the every day. You know, the 24/7 of the week and the 365 days and the very second you treat one another. These are the measures of relationship. Many fails in these, and I would be very glad that we havent had fights and violent relationship, which I would not want to have either. ( I've been there from my past )
When God says that Male and Female shall cleave to each other and leave the parents, such a big obligation. It gives you as an individual to have a responsibility towards the other partner and reverse. It is the stretching of patience and learning to have one, the learning of understanding and having a Hope together. Standing in Faith towards God indeed can change a couple. When they both fear God, they will have respect towards the Family they are building. And the foundation is the relationship everyday. Im so much glad that God had equipped us to become the best friends of all time. In marriage, you have no other closer to you than your partner, children will grow up and leave and have their own. Friends and Family stays for some time but not the same as marriage.
You smell each others scents, all this farting, burping, laughters, crying, small details that makes the day. This creates the daily memories. In my marriage, when one disapprove or dislikes things, we talk. We don't have fights but we have arguments and meeting one anothers approval or finding a solution to solve a problem. we don't sleep without saying ' I love you ' and I as a woman always bends my knees towards God and giving HIm thanks- As a wife, I support my husbands interests and push him to be motivated. Lifts him up when he is down and he as well do the same. His shoulders are my pacifier, and his ears listens when I am sad. We stand for each other. and this is how to be married as a Children of God.
I advice that, Marriage shall be sanctified by your purity in thoughts, motives, care. that the two of you are submissive towards another. That each shall respect wether the other one likes Mango shake and the other likes Ice Cream. each choices shall meet into an understanding.
I give to you this bible verses to give you understanding.
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Genesis 2:22-24
22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
Proverbs 5:18-19
18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.
Proverbs 12:4
4 A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.
Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.
Proverbs 19:14
14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.
Proverbs 20:6-7
6 Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? 7 The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them.
Proverbs 30:18-19
18 “There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand: 19 the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a young woman.
Proverbs 31:10
10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.
Ephesians 5:22-33
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Deuteronomy 24:5
5 If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.
Matthew 19:4-6
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
1 Corinthians 7:1-16
1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Colossians 3:18-19
18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
Hebrews 13:4-7
4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. 5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” 6 So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” 7 Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.
Mark 10:6-9
6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
