2nd Year Wedding Anniversary

To  God belongs all Praise and Worship! All thanksgiving We give to Him. Honor, Glory and Majesty is His name! To Jesus the perfecter of  Marriage and Family!

When  we started our relationship, many had not believed us. Few have known us and our families had been in shocked of  our wedding.
through these  Two Years of journey, we had experienced  many things.
We had ups and downs, we had differences.
but most of all, my husband met the Big Man of my life ' God ' and my husband met my Jesus.

Many laughed at me, many have tried to disfigure my husband because  of my faith. But  I stand without anything for  them to say against me. I stood with all my faithfulness to my God that is why I  stood with all  my love towards  my husband. Showing sincerity, honesty, love and trust.
I fear God, and I love God. Therefore, all the things I heard and although some do not like me  in the family, I stand for the representation  of our marriage.
Guess what. I don't expect to be liked, I don't expect to be appreciated. Because  what's important  for me is that me  and my husband love each other.

Thank You Benny for your faithfulness to me and to our covenant to each other and God is the witness. I love  you and I look forward for more years to come. Whatever happens, I know God have us in His Wings. His hands will protect our marriage. Thank  you for loving me even when everybody say  no!
It matters to God!

1 John 4“And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them."
"However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband (Ephesians 5:33)."

The trails of Life is moving

As I sit here and watch our photgraphs through the past two years, I still would say that I DO Love my husband that much. I see all the good things that had come our way. all the places we have been, all the things we did together were unremarkable-

Now the traces of good things come and had passed us by. This time, the house in shaken and the only thing to do is to live it and strive forward together.
I am positive thinking and I am not looking on failures as if they were the end of things, I see them as a possibility to excel in life and to become more wiser in time. I am very much happy to see how the years had passed by and there are many things that have been changed through the years.
  still.... I am unsure of the what the future holds...
                          ...........................only God knows that is ahead.........
..............................I will always be a faithful wife......

Marriage - is Honorable among all!

When marriage is in shaken,  walking away is not the answer.
Calm down and speak with each other. Don't call for emergency numbers and talk around.
Walking away is for people who are not capable of going to the next step of their lives.
Marriage is Honorable, and the bed undefiled. This means that when the shake is on the run, don't think it's over. Don't take your shoe and don't pack your bags and leave. Don't call your peeps and say " hey man! My husbands leaving me, or my wife's leaving and I don't know why, bla bla bla" who cares?? They don't know you both much than you know each other well. You live together and not with them.
Don't exchange the years together and end it into a one day leave. Marriage is not like movies, it is hard work and it is handling the motions day by day. Overcoming the waves by walking upon the water and trusting God and His love endures forever.

Sometimes, misunderstanding are huge and there are people around that really waits for both to split up. Because that's how they handle responsibility. And if you agree with what they sketch you, you will be drawn to be like them. Broken and immature. Do not be conformed by this world. Because the world tells you that if you're unhappy, you got to leave! The world tells you that if you are not satisfied then find another one! If your expectations are not met then divorce. That's sucks and stupid! That's the world! That's not you! You are not of this world! You are a child of God!
If you are in an abusive relationship! I advise you to leave! If your husband or wife is irresponsible, bring him to authorities, if he does not comply with the law then you have to decide whether you leave or stay!
People who are not willing to handle responsibility are the ones who thinks walking away is the answer. PLEASE Stop! That's foolishness!
Stay calm, and begin from the beginning. Learn to humble yourselves and submit to one another. Hear the case of one another, place your complaints about each other. And when all had been revealed,  forget the problem and the records of wrongs. If you ask forgiveness, it is humbleness. if you get down in your knees and seek to serve your partner, it is not self-seeking.when you take your partner and move the change with him or her, it is kindness. If you set your heart to forgive even when there's no harm done, it is love.
Speak good for one another and remember the love you had from the beginning! Start from there! " I love you and I want to marry you"
Words sometimes are not needed but a big embrace and touch and affection and compassion is what needed!

Learn to spend time and listen to each others heart. And I'm not talking about abuse here. I'm talking about marriages that sometimes have been affected by environmental views.
Remember the words of wisdom!
Wisdom that comes from God and not from the world.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Remember, when you stayed and reached until gray hairs! You will not regret you made a good husband and wife!
Everybody goes this trials you know!
And few succeed!
It's not because we live in the millennium and it was different before, but it's because through the years, people become more and more self centered that's why they fall!

Recently! Marriage!!!

I am so much amazed, the years had passed by.
My Husband and I are growing so much in learning from each other. We had times of ups and downs and had been trying to learn more to grow in our relationship.
 As married couple, it is hard sometimes to adjust towards each others expectations. I've learned not to set any expectations at all but just to serve one another with all honesty and truthfulness. It would result disappointments if I would set my expectations which in the end couldn't be met. This contrast in marriage is such a huge obligation. It was very much filled with  excitement in the beginning, with all these datings, until it went to engagements and the weddings. It was always filled with fun.
 When the excitement is over, what counts then is the every day. You know, the 24/7 of the week and the 365 days and the very second you treat one another. These are the measures of relationship. Many fails in these, and I would be very glad that we havent had fights and violent relationship, which I would not want to have either. ( I've been there from my past )

When God says that Male and Female shall cleave to each other and leave the parents, such a big obligation. It gives you as an individual to have a responsibility towards the other partner and reverse. It is the stretching of patience and learning to have one, the learning of understanding and having a Hope together. Standing in Faith towards God indeed can change a couple. When they both fear God, they will have respect towards the Family they are building. And the foundation is the relationship everyday. Im so much glad that God had equipped us to become the best friends of all time. In marriage, you have no other closer to you than your partner, children will grow up and leave and have their own. Friends and Family stays for some time but not the same as marriage.
 You smell each others scents, all this farting, burping, laughters, crying, small details that makes the day. This creates the daily memories. In my marriage, when one disapprove or dislikes things, we talk. We don't have fights but we have arguments and meeting one anothers approval or finding a solution to solve a problem. we don't sleep without saying ' I love you '  and I as a woman always bends my knees towards God and giving HIm thanks- As a wife, I support my husbands interests and push him to be motivated. Lifts him up when he is down and he as well do the same. His shoulders are my pacifier, and his ears listens when I am sad. We stand for each other. and this is how to be married as a Children of God.

I advice that, Marriage shall be sanctified by your purity in thoughts, motives, care. that the two of you are submissive towards another. That each shall respect wether the other one likes Mango shake and the other likes Ice Cream. each choices shall meet into an understanding.
I give to you this bible verses to give you understanding.

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Genesis 2:22-24
22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. 23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.” 24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Proverbs 5:18-19
18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love.

Proverbs 12:4
4 A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.

Proverbs 18:22
22 He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.

Proverbs 19:14
14 Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.

Proverbs 20:6-7
6 Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? 7 The righteous lead blameless lives; blessed are their children after them.

Proverbs 30:18-19
18 “There are three things that are too amazing for me, four that I do not understand: 19 the way of an eagle in the sky, the way of a snake on a rock, the way of a ship on the high seas, and the way of a man with a young woman.

Proverbs 31:10
10 A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.

Ephesians 5:22-33
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Deuteronomy 24:5
5 If a man has recently married, he must not be sent to war or have any other duty laid on him. For one year he is to be free to stay at home and bring happiness to the wife he has married.

Matthew 19:4-6
4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

1 Corinthians 7:1-16
1 Now for the matters you wrote about: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2But since sexual immorality is occurring, each man should have sexual relations with his own wife, and each woman with her own husband. 3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. 6 I say this as a concession, not as a command. 7 I wish that all of you were as I am. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. 8 Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. 9 But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion. 10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife. 12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy. 15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

Colossians 3:18-19
18 Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

Hebrews 13:4-7
4 Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. 5 Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” 6 So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can mere mortals do to me?” 7 Remember your leaders, who spoke the word of God to you. Consider the outcome of their way of life and imitate their faith.

Mark 10:6-9
6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ 7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.’So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Loving my husband

As i am in Denmark for my KickStart Mission from www.thelastreformation.com , I am thinking too much of my husband. How I hoped he was with me and how I hoped I could travel with him in this journey together.  I am so excited to think of it.

I arrived in Jesus Hotel, seeing people and many married couples and some have brought their children with them. It was so amazing..

I realised that, although my husband was not with me, and my kids was not with me either. It is brave and courageous of me to come for this reason of travel. I realised, how much I loved them somehow. And I've thought that my husband is very much supportive just to help me and allow me to become what God has given me to do.
I am glad of it. For being a disciple of Jesus, it is not just me whom are working for God but my husband being a part of it are also a vessel for me to make it through. And by this, I am convinced that God is teaching me wonderful things..
I love my Jesus and I love my husband and children..

Husbands obedience to God!

"As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. "
Joshua 24:15
15 And if it seem evil unto you to serve the Lord, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord

Me and my husband has a big difference and I'm grateful that we are created that way..

My husband is more of a macho guy and I love it. He is more of going to gym, working, and also his priority is that his wife is happy and satisfied.

My husband likes his career a lot. And I mean... a lot... he is working as a nurse assistant but his passion is going to gym. He trains almost five days or possibly seven days a week. And that's how he is and I've got no problem with that.

I am a follower of Jesus and I practice my faith. I like gym also but not as wild as my husband. I go to gym maybe twice or once a week if I feel like going or maybe five times a month. My passion is going out in the streets and praying for people and going out with my kids. Drinking coffee and eating cakes and that's how I am.I am very social and likes meeting people. I love playing guitar and singing praises to God and very spiritual. I'm not churchy person but I do what Jesus says.
My husband is a blessed man. For he doesn't know that just by allowing me to go out and pray for people and share the gospel makes him an obedient man. You know? I don't need to rush him or push him to believe in what I believe in because He already believes and trust in Jesus, he needs to see how a disciple works through me. I am his example. And that is good.

I love my husband because he is obedient to God and it is awesome because he can't see it. He just think that he just allows me to go out yet spiritually, he is making our house a house of blessings and it is wonderful..

If I would describe to you this thing with a simple word, I would say that.. through my husband obedience to God’s work through me..the windows and doors of God's blessings is opened..and I feel the presence of God is with us every day..I am absolutely confident with God's love through Jesus. And I love my husband because I have found favor in His eyes.

Career Minders

It has been a challenge for me when I got married twice..
So this time, on my second time of marriage.. I am absolutely blessed..

My husband is thinking to join a body building contest hopefully this year, as I am interested in my discipleship training.. I go out often now, and pray for people, meeting friends.
As for my husband, he spends a lot of time in the gym. I could imagine the success of all the body builders and fitness celebrities whom are married..

Well, I adjust myself to eat on my own food for there are many different ways and types of food a contestant should take and shouldn't take. So in a way, it was a discipline for me to not go out so much in restaurants and cafeterias with all luxurious delicacies and pastries..

Now, I'm going to be more supportive to my husband as well as he with mine..