Our Love Story: December 2015

As I look back from this moment, I see brighter days...
I have no doubt at all that God indeed is a living God who is a Generous and loving Father. I See Love in all that surrounds me. I can tell that Love does not define how I feel.. And I would say that Love, is indeed an action and responsibility.. This feeling that I feel defines only my satisfaction and fulfillment upon the results of every thing done in my relationship.

God is such amazing.. When I look back and imagine myself then, I would have speak enough of selfishness and emotions. I would have defined love in that way.

Of all the brokenness in my heart and of all the hardships and trials. I will not dare to put down my past relationship into a blame. My former relationship is not that bad at all. Maybe we were just two individuals whom are expecting too much on each other. We two different individuals whom have been into hurt and has not been healed and confronted by our mistakes, therefore we failed and had been led to harm one another.

I look at my husband now.. I see God's love. I asked myself once when I was younger. What does love mean to you? Without hesistation, I answered that Love is a feeling, emotional reactions and when you feel gladness when you see the person you care and love. And I would think of relationship between man and a woman.

Now I am 29, I renewed myself to be a real Christian in 2010. ALthough I grew up as a Christian, this topic does not really came to my mind. I was just like everyone else. But This time, no one asks me... But I asked myself WHAT DOES LOVE MEAN TO YOU? and I stare at myself and imagined I am speaking and having conversation with my own.

I see my views are ver different from then.

I answered, Love is responsibility, respect, kindness, goodness and endurance, sacrifices, adjustment and trusting, and most is honesty and openness.

I look closer to what the bible says.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

I saw a light in that... I have been with many relationship. And Now I saw after my failures. No matter what people think about me. No matter how much I have been into hurts. I always think also and reminds myself. Yes..They hurt me.. But I also cannot deny that I have hurt someone else along the way.

I saw my character, and yes before in the past. There was no good at all in my attitudes. I was not kind, for I am rude in every word that comes out of my lips. I envy what other women has. When I saw someone happy, I wish and envied I also has it. But of course behind those beautiful relationship lies a story. They might have been into trials that maybe doesnt suit me at all and maybe, I wouldn't be able to make and understand it. But I envied. Remember that the ten commandments says; Do not covet..( thats envy ) I was filled with pride that I always appoints myself as the best one..the best partner. the best and the good..I am filled with flatterings and many friends would agree '' yeah you are kind, lovable, nice '' but those words when I get back home and reside my relationship, I dont feel sincerity. Because my behaviour is rude, I wished sometimes my partner would die, and I couldnt carry out every single day.. the love i had before was a love that is worldly and materialistic.

I see God's hands whom have humbled me down. And when the devil hits me with all the difficulties and hardships, I saw How God also uses it for me to realize who I am to know the real meaning of Love.

I have re-married. This Marriage with Benny is my second Marriage. This time.. I saw the Goodness of the Father in heaven. I give him all the Glory and Honor. I praise Him. And I am thankful because of all the hardships and trials.. Yeah, He prepared me to meet a man like Benny.

Benny has the characters of a person who loves. He is kind, he does not envy because he is satisfied with what he have, he is not proud, he has a good behaviour and he is sweet and thoughtful, he does not provoke me, he speaks to me in kindness even in times of moodswings, he comforts me and care for me, he believes in what I can do and builds me up as a woman. He has a bigger hope and tries to make it good and he has faith in God's strength. He endures whenever he meets my negative sides and carries me with a smile as hel looks at me with passion and patience.

I know, no one is perfect. Everyone can define love on their own. But Love is not sexual intercourse. It is a mere action and responsibility. It is the attitude that God has for us. His ability to love us unconditionally.

I love Benny, and if words were enough, I would have written so much about it. But I can just come up with words that I can to define his love for me and these words are the only thing I know to define how God has been good to me.

In all my ways, I give Glory to God. And I see how much God loves me because He shows me that yes! I failed! But God has something in store if I just trust Him and learn to appreciate the things that God had been doing for me. To appreciate Benny for he gives honor to our marriage.

That I should respect Benny as a man, and I dont care if other woman is like a boss over their man. For me, I give the space that a man needs and I must not forget that. In a peaceful marriage, The man has to be a man and a woman has to be a woman. Never understimate a man, and never disrespect women. But honoring one another is a good thing to show God that we do what he has commanded us to do. To Love and cherish one another.

I love Benny. I love God with all my soul, my heart and understanding. Because through God, I can learn to love myself and be able to love my husband with a love that comes from God.

And I am not afraid of anything that will come along our way. Because I know that God will always be Help and refuge. God will always be our guide and our Joy.

I love You Benny...And I will do what I can to make you a good wife!!!

Here: I will share you one good link about marriage with GOD and Jesus on the TOP AND PRIORITY;,,

In a recent Pew Research religious landscape survey, 71 percent of the nation said they believe in God with absolute certainty, and 56 percent say that religion is very important in their lives.

With over half of the nation holding religion in high regards, many turn to religion to cope with life’s ups and downs. A 2014 study out of Columbia University found that those who practiced religion were more protected from depression compared to those who did not practice. The study showed that subjects who highly valued religion had a thicker brain cortex, therefore protecting the part of the brain where major depression would occur.

Looking to the Bible throughout your marriage is a great way to remember the importance of the vows that you took to stay engaged with your faith and your spouse on a daily basis. Here are some Bible verses to help you throughout your marriage, both in good times and in bad.

Remind yourself of the strength and power of marriage.

"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken." Ecclesiastes 4:12

"So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth." Genesis 1:27-28

"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." Mark 10:9

"Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun."Ecclesiastes 9:9

Remember the power of patience and forgiveness.

"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins." 1 Peter 4:8

"Be completely humble and gentle; Be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the spirit through the bond of peace." Ephesians 4:2-3

"And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:32

Do your best to resist life's temptations.

"No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it."1 Corinthians 10:13

"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral." Hebrews 13:4

Trust in the Lord above all else.

"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love." 1 John 4:7-8

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths." Proverbs 3:5-6

"Be strong and courageous; do not be frightened or dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go." Joshua 1:9

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares The Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

Source: A Guide for Marriage <<<<<<--------- This link is good to read.