Kind and Thoughtful

Ecclesiastes 4:9: “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone?"

Isn't so wonderful to read this text? Just by looking at it, makes you imagine a perfect partner. Either a friend, a husband or a wife or why not some members of your family? But is it possible to find one whom are ready to stand with you in all aspects of life?
Are we seeking more for allegiance than seeking for an honest person whom would not dare to leave in the difficult times of our fall?
I often observed my husband whenever my mind goes in thoughts regarding if something happen to me, will he ever help me to stand or will he sacrifice for me? In that case the question turned to myself towards my reaction for him.
I often asks, where does his feelings for me marginalised? Is there any limit?

I find myself easily answered without a doubt, at all cost I would sacrifice and will do my best to help him. Not just because of love but because it is my duty as a wife to stand in his side both good times and weak times..
Isn't it amazing as the scripture describes that two are Better than one, Because they have a good return for their labour? Which can mean to me that whatever the two does for each other, it is the benefit for two and satisfaction for two and not just for one!
So, in that case, I don't expect my husband to do the same for me. But of course I wish he do but I won't expect nothing at all. Why? Because expectations can fail you and can discourage you. Expectation towards your dearly ones can blind you to see the true love, I mean it disregards the effort and sensitivity of your relationship towards each other. Expectations requires something to be received fulfilling one way edification which is reverse of
1 Corinthians 
  Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

That is way too strong to read. Even if we read it slowly...then you know what Love is in marriage part.. indeed in marriage, and in loving your husband or partner does not necessarily based by what you feel or by what your emotions tell you. It is based by your lifestyle, the way you would treat one another. I believe that the foundation of marriage is either the intimacy and the deep sensitivity towards one another. Knowing exactly your partner from within. Not shoving away their feelings but also correction to make the person become better than what we are..
that's how I see myself for my husband. I know I can't do it perfectly, but I know deep within myself that I do my best and he don't need to do things towards me unless he is observant..

A SUNNY DAY

Oh my oh my! been a long time I have written here.

Yesterday we had some visitor at home and we had a wonderful time together at home.
my friend slept at our house and my husband get well with it.
wonderful!!
so today as our vissitor went back home to her city, I went by to see my brethren in Christ.
and then picked my husband who just finished working..
sometimes women also need to do special things. 
and I love just doing this things. date my husband and just be cool together!
see ya again peepz..

Honesty is the integrity of a good person

I would like to share some thoughts of my travel to Hungary!

I had a stop in Berlin waiting for a connecting flight to Budapest. I'm travelling not for pleasure but to serve God and to meet my brethren who lives there and meet others who bears the same Spirit of serving God and spreading the kingdom.

So at last the plane came, and I got my seat near the aisle at the end of the plane. On the left side sat two men.
As the stewardess run here and fro, the aisle seemed to be so narrow for people just comes in, as I've heard Air Berlin had unexpected passengers out of their lists of passengers. And one thing, we waited a long time because the flight was even delayed twice on my part, and they served a hard cracker dream something  that would almost gonna crack my teeth when i chew haha and a hot coffee. Which the german guy wasnt tough enough to eat that hard cracker. It wasnt tasty at all, I suppose they would serve some good baked delicacy but, I expected too much maybe.
I've been observing people and the plane was so unexpectedly full of people. I actually wondered how we all fit in there.

I looked at this man on my left who sat near me on the left side. A huge and seemed well behaved man. I judged him physically because he is big muscled man and looks scary to me. Even the chair of Air Berlin seemed not to fit for  tall people, because this man does not fit the chair, his knee was against the chair in front. His voice reminds me of Arnold Schwarzenegger in terminator "I'll be back!" hahaha.. I'm very stupid, I even told him he sounds like terminator.
And because of curiosity, I spoke with him. but as I spoke to him, it created a thought in me that this man is very humbled and very socialised.
We had good conversations and sharing. I shared a lot about God to this man, and I've got a picture he is wealthy but his character impressed me more. This man is a salesman in background.
But of all this commotion or conversation we had, it made me realised that God indeed blesses people's lives and shows His steadfast blessings and grace upon every living creature on earth, no matter the status of a person can be.

So, to bring you to the point.
I asked this young man, I believed he told me his age but I already forgot it. About my age(I'm 31).
I asked him if he is married!
and wow! He gladly replied with a smile on his face. "Yes I am happily married!"
That response I tell you is very rare among young men. Some that I met would say "Yes... but..." or a man suddenly looking down the ground and say in a sad voice "Yes, and it's like that".
In his physical look, I would say that even deep within it amazes me because that man took pride to show the world how much he loved his wife even when she's not around. And because of my amazement, I gave him a compliment " how amazing that you answer honestly, you're wife must be proud of you" and yes she should.

In this generation, some men did not know why they married or maybe some did not have a good marriage and were not even glad about it. I guess that communication, treatment towards another is a huge thing. And one big issue is money. Some women are nagging about money because of selfish desires and some men are frustrated how to fulfil this tasks. Some men also have selfish desires which women becomes desperate to fill the blanks just to make the relationship happy. But among all the stories I've heard, this young German guy although it seemed to me that he and his wife had both ups and downs together, I noticed that for him it was just a stepping stone towards a happily lived marriage.
And take note: (He is a wedding planer, hahah he's gpt 10 points to make his wife a happy woman in the whole wide world)  His eyes glimpse as he speaks of their story and it makes me so happy to Praise God there are people like this young man.

I've met different people in my life and along the journey. I've heard different stories but this one is the best I've ever heard of a man. As we have spoken while on air flight, I've seen how wonderful he will become as a father. And suddenly, I saw a vision of this man holding a child and it is a boy! I shared him the vision and he seemed glad about it but not sincerely convinced yet out of politeness he speaks with me kindly.

I'm overwhelmed how few men can simply be honest and be proud of their wife. Which is rare to find.

I would say, my husband is the same.
I could trust him wherever he may go because I know for sure that he is adult enough to know his limitations and know what is right and wrong, which is good and evil.
I wish many married couples would be the same. that the truthfulness of their commitments and honesty and faithfulness towards another would much be proven especially when their partners are not around. For although it seemed no one sees, God is the witness of every one and God Himself brings into conscience the conviction whenever a person betrays its wife or husband. God Himself brings into justice what reward each can receive and brings into the open the things that are secretly done in darkness and dishonesty.

As the flight comes closer to Budapest, I've realised my thoughts needed to be disciplined as well, regarding physical judgement or thoughts.
Luckily, I know my husband trusts me as I am towards him. and I have fear sometimes with hope he won't deny me or that I won't do the same but that we would be proud we found each other and we two would do the best we can do to make our marriage a happy and successful, that through us, many people will be blessed and it will Give Glory to God!

I hope it triggers some thoughts also on your part and that you would change what is needed to be changed. somehow, all marriages has its own traditions and it's own trials which every one of you have all what is needed to make it better. Do not underestimate your partner's capabilities and strength, for they are to help you and do not underestimate yourself for there are also strength in you that can make your marriages lively.
talk it out, and never be afraid to ask and teach another kindly and in love.
Do not yell towards another and when wrong things happen, find a way to do it right together. accept a help and put down your pride.
A happy marriage is not created by travels or by pleasures, but by how you treat one another!
okay people!
Goodbye Apple pie!
God bless each and every one of you!

Its now three years

I've often wondered how it will be for us to manage the every day lives. Day in and day out, the mornings and the evenings.
Of course there are days which is very tough and the only thing we can do is make the best out of it. I would say that fairy tales are just a lie because in reality of marriages, we create the moments to be comfortable and satisfactory for both which the fairy tales describes how happily ever after the moments can be.
Well, maybe not exactly but that every moment we create determines our perspectives in our lives, and it builds us up to make it through the hills and the tough roads.

2nd Year Wedding Anniversary

To  God belongs all Praise and Worship! All thanksgiving We give to Him. Honor, Glory and Majesty is His name! To Jesus the perfecter of  Marriage and Family!

When  we started our relationship, many had not believed us. Few have known us and our families had been in shocked of  our wedding.
through these  Two Years of journey, we had experienced  many things.
We had ups and downs, we had differences.
but most of all, my husband met the Big Man of my life ' God ' and my husband met my Jesus.

Many laughed at me, many have tried to disfigure my husband because  of my faith. But  I stand without anything for  them to say against me. I stood with all my faithfulness to my God that is why I  stood with all  my love towards  my husband. Showing sincerity, honesty, love and trust.
I fear God, and I love God. Therefore, all the things I heard and although some do not like me  in the family, I stand for the representation  of our marriage.
Guess what. I don't expect to be liked, I don't expect to be appreciated. Because  what's important  for me is that me  and my husband love each other.

Thank You Benny for your faithfulness to me and to our covenant to each other and God is the witness. I love  you and I look forward for more years to come. Whatever happens, I know God have us in His Wings. His hands will protect our marriage. Thank  you for loving me even when everybody say  no!
It matters to God!

1 John 4“And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them."
"However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband (Ephesians 5:33)."

The trails of Life is moving

As I sit here and watch our photgraphs through the past two years, I still would say that I DO Love my husband that much. I see all the good things that had come our way. all the places we have been, all the things we did together were unremarkable-

Now the traces of good things come and had passed us by. This time, the house in shaken and the only thing to do is to live it and strive forward together.
I am positive thinking and I am not looking on failures as if they were the end of things, I see them as a possibility to excel in life and to become more wiser in time. I am very much happy to see how the years had passed by and there are many things that have been changed through the years.
  still.... I am unsure of the what the future holds...
                          ...........................only God knows that is ahead.........
..............................I will always be a faithful wife......

Marriage - is Honorable among all!

When marriage is in shaken,  walking away is not the answer.
Calm down and speak with each other. Don't call for emergency numbers and talk around.
Walking away is for people who are not capable of going to the next step of their lives.
Marriage is Honorable, and the bed undefiled. This means that when the shake is on the run, don't think it's over. Don't take your shoe and don't pack your bags and leave. Don't call your peeps and say " hey man! My husbands leaving me, or my wife's leaving and I don't know why, bla bla bla" who cares?? They don't know you both much than you know each other well. You live together and not with them.
Don't exchange the years together and end it into a one day leave. Marriage is not like movies, it is hard work and it is handling the motions day by day. Overcoming the waves by walking upon the water and trusting God and His love endures forever.

Sometimes, misunderstanding are huge and there are people around that really waits for both to split up. Because that's how they handle responsibility. And if you agree with what they sketch you, you will be drawn to be like them. Broken and immature. Do not be conformed by this world. Because the world tells you that if you're unhappy, you got to leave! The world tells you that if you are not satisfied then find another one! If your expectations are not met then divorce. That's sucks and stupid! That's the world! That's not you! You are not of this world! You are a child of God!
If you are in an abusive relationship! I advise you to leave! If your husband or wife is irresponsible, bring him to authorities, if he does not comply with the law then you have to decide whether you leave or stay!
People who are not willing to handle responsibility are the ones who thinks walking away is the answer. PLEASE Stop! That's foolishness!
Stay calm, and begin from the beginning. Learn to humble yourselves and submit to one another. Hear the case of one another, place your complaints about each other. And when all had been revealed,  forget the problem and the records of wrongs. If you ask forgiveness, it is humbleness. if you get down in your knees and seek to serve your partner, it is not self-seeking.when you take your partner and move the change with him or her, it is kindness. If you set your heart to forgive even when there's no harm done, it is love.
Speak good for one another and remember the love you had from the beginning! Start from there! " I love you and I want to marry you"
Words sometimes are not needed but a big embrace and touch and affection and compassion is what needed!

Learn to spend time and listen to each others heart. And I'm not talking about abuse here. I'm talking about marriages that sometimes have been affected by environmental views.
Remember the words of wisdom!
Wisdom that comes from God and not from the world.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Remember, when you stayed and reached until gray hairs! You will not regret you made a good husband and wife!
Everybody goes this trials you know!
And few succeed!
It's not because we live in the millennium and it was different before, but it's because through the years, people become more and more self centered that's why they fall!